Erotic massage and sex clubs, city by city

An erotic massage salon is a place where a masseuse gives a sensual, whole-body massage to an adult client. She decides what she does and does not do, and the client keeps his hands where she says. Readers search for this kind of session under several names, and the names describe different things.

• Nuru: a Japanese style in which the masseuse covers both bodies in a slippery gel and slides along the client rather than working with her hands alone.
• Tantric: slow and deliberate, built around breathing and long strokes over the whole body, drawing the session out rather than hurrying it.
• Happy ending: the plain search term for a massage whose final minutes are more intimate than the rest; what that means in practice is the masseuse's decision.
• Body rub: the American term for a hands-on, whole-body massage with no clinical framing.
• Full body massage and adult massage: broad terms for a session that covers the whole body without naming a technique.

Choosing between them comes down to pace and contact: nuru for skin on skin, tantric for a slow session, a body rub or full body massage for something simpler. Read the style page for the term you have in mind, then compare the salons on the city page. When you make contact, ask what the session includes, how long it runs and how payment works, and arrive showered and on time. If there is anything you would rather the masseuse did not do, say so at the start; she will tell you her own limits in the same way.

A gentlemen's club is a bar with a stage where dancers perform. Private dances, where the house has them, are paid for separately, so ask the door staff how they work before you sit down. A swingers club has no performers: the people on the floor are guests who have come to meet other guests, with play rooms for those who agree to take things further. Nobody is obliged to join in, and a clear no ends a conversation.

A first night at a gentlemen's club is simple: pay the entry charge, buy a drink, watch the stage, and book a dance when you want closer attention. A swingers club takes more thought. Check which nights admit single men and which are for couples only, read the dress code before you set out, and spend the first hour talking rather than heading for a play room. Couples visiting together should agree beforehand what each of them is comfortable with, and hold to that agreement once the evening is under way; a quiet word to each other is always allowed.

Every city page follows the same layout. Venue cards list the erotic massage salons, gentlemen's clubs and swingers clubs we have checked in that city. Open a card for the full listing and the venue's own contact details, which are the only route to the venue: no booking passes through us. A featured venue pays for its placement and sits among the other cards having passed the same checks.

Shortlist from the cards, then contact each venue directly to ask about availability, how to find the door and how payment works. Bring some cash in case cards are not taken. Cities in the United States and Vietnam are also grouped on a country page, so a reader comparing Chicago with Denver, or Hanoi with Ho Chi Minh City, can move between them in one step. The style pages, from nuru massage to body rub, explain each term before you search a city for it.

A venue appears on AdultGuide only after it has passed our checks, and a new city is added only when its venues have done the same, which is why cities arrive in small batches rather than all at once. The method is set out on the page how we check venues.

A featured venue pays for its placement. It passes the same checks as every other venue: the fee buys placement, never a softer check, and it changes nothing about how you contact the venue. Venues interested in paid placement can read about it on the featured placement page.

Can I book here? No. We take no bookings and no payments. Every listing shows the venue's own contact details, and you make the arrangement with the venue yourself, by whichever contact route the listing gives.

What about payment? Payment is between you and the venue. Ask when you book how they take payment and what the session or entry includes, so there are no surprises at the door. We never handle money.

Is consent respected? A masseuse sets her own limits, and a guest at any club can say no at any moment. If something about a listing seems wrong, you can reach us through the contact page.

Does a listing mean a recommendation? No. It means the venue passed our checks. We do not score venues or publish opinions; the listing and the venue's own contact details are there for you to judge for yourself.